tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22366945.post6118044010616673998..comments2023-10-20T12:02:07.124-04:00Comments on A New Flower Blooms: Sometimes I feel like a childabebechhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05827016743055256735noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22366945.post-15943480788996168572009-03-12T12:54:00.000-04:002009-03-12T12:54:00.000-04:00I have just been catching up after nearly 4 months...I have just been catching up after nearly 4 months of being out of touch. I am so sorry to read about dh's dad. I can assure you it is not from want of thought that I have not been reading. Today is almost 2 months from losing my mom. There is no easy (or right) way to grieve--even if that is in advance. Give yourself grace. Sometimes children get it best. :-)<BR/><BR/>love and hugs to you and dh,<BR/>keelyJournadahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05273812504465763993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22366945.post-77045681890323975752009-03-05T22:02:00.000-05:002009-03-05T22:02:00.000-05:00Your last comment gives me an idea: that maybe whe...Your last comment gives me an idea: that maybe when our parents get old and sick, we do a roll-reversal (to some degree)--so that wanting to protect your FIL from your fears is entirely natural. You are the one who's supposed to be strong and together.<BR/><BR/>Except that you can't be all the time, and that despite your new role as caregiver (even if you're not actively giving physical care), he is an adult, so it's more complex.<BR/><BR/>Your instincts were probably correct not to bring it up at that moment, but a heart-to-heart might be in order, just the two of you or FIL, you, and dh. Lola is right--he will most likely see it as an expression of love and care.<BR/><BR/>This all sounds so hard--<BR/><BR/>J.P.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22366945.post-40919806615289108092009-03-05T11:53:00.000-05:002009-03-05T11:53:00.000-05:00Thank you. I know you're right about telling the ...Thank you. I know you're right about telling the truth, and I tell my children that they can tell me anything no matter how hard it is, but here I am having a hard time figuring out when to say it and when to filter.abebechhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827016743055256735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22366945.post-40431340356626195502009-03-04T20:09:00.000-05:002009-03-04T20:09:00.000-05:00As a mother in reunion for 18 years, I endorse tel...As a mother in reunion for 18 years, I endorse telling the truth, even when it hurts. Moving forward is a lifelong process. Our best moves are usually based on truth.Being Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18191598836451286017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22366945.post-25269458438089653752009-03-02T20:47:00.000-05:002009-03-02T20:47:00.000-05:00Thanks so much. It means a lot to me/us that you ...Thanks so much. It means a lot to me/us that you understand.abebechhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05827016743055256735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22366945.post-57718807412998188332009-03-02T20:04:00.000-05:002009-03-02T20:04:00.000-05:00eh, you made me cry... hang in there... and someth...eh, you made me cry... hang in there... and something i've learned-- you don't always have to be strong for them.<BR/><BR/>I'm sure he would be touched by how much he matters to you.<BR/><BR/>LolaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com